In a Christian wedding a couple agrees by saying “I do” and same in a Muslim wedding when the couple says “kabool he” (I do), “ye vivah sampan hua”(the ceremony of marriage is complete) in a Hindu wedding and“Anandkaraj di reet sampoorn hui, eh saath janam-janam da hove”(the ceremony of marriage is complete and may you live together in many more births to come) in a ‘Sikh’ wedding. Humans sans love are incomplete and before love, one is half but as one meets her/his life-partner the two bodies changes to one complete soul. It is said that marriage is the final destination of love and it makes the couple fulfilled. At best marriage is like a spiritual union of two spirits, with no feelings of separation possible, full of joy and contentment. Marriage gives the couple a responsibility to be fully devoted into them and live together till the end of time. Getting married can be easy but it takes a lot of effort to sustain married life. Living with a partner is different than with parents. Think twice before you speak as words can heal or hurt, discourage or inspire, destroy or build, and once said, can never be changed or taken back…I truly agree with this quote, “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can destroy me”. In best marriages, a couple has the liberty to share everything with each other, and are also totally comfortable in each other's company. Words can be life and death of a marriage. Never use your words to offend your spouse as each word carries its own weight and each individual has its own built in scale, either sensitive or non-sensitive. I have been married for eighteen years now; there were times when even I asked myself “Why did I get married?” There were certain occasions when I pushed the envelope to make my husband and family happy. Many times I wanted to give up and cry but my tears remain closed in my eyes. I have learnt the golden rule, a word called “haan-ji” (Yes) which can eliminate your worries and helps you flee any situation perfectly. Just say haan-ji to whatever the other person is telling you and do what you feel is right later! This is a very successful tried and tested formula. CERTAIN WORDS ARE A MUST SAY: I love you, You look beautiful, Thank you, Please, Can I help you, You mean everything to me, I believe in you, Excuse me, May I?, I'm proud of you, I am listening These words can help your family to express love, feel better and lift their moods up. A few words can help raise one's self esteem. Out of experience, I have understood that marriage makes you see different shores of life. In all cases one has to be solid rock behind her/his spouse in times of any family, social, professional or financial problem. One should never be hopeless. Highs and lows are part of life, never berate your partner. Problems always have a solution and you can come up to a solution quicker together as a sudden setback can be seen as a brick wall, it can also be seen as a stepping stone. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything bad. |
Following should be strictly avoided: · This is none of your business In India marriage is not only the union of two beings but a union of two families. Any step by either of them would be a direct impact on their families. In conversations, don't act first and think later as it can leave an emotional bruise. Let me summarize few important ideas and secrets that help you form a stronger communication and a stronger bond with your spouse. 1. Pray, Dream and Travel together. Take a break! 4. At the time of any tiff between the two, at least one should keep his/her mouth shut. Discuss the matter once you both are calm. |
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