Correction does much, but encouragement does more… Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

It is so very easy and it happens so often. Parents are constantly scolding their children and telling them “don't do this, don't do that” and it is one of the nicest ways to kill off all enthusiasm. The parent's attitude and approach rubs off on the children and we have another generation will tread the same old footsteps and be non-achievers. Today's life is extremely competitive and parents want their children to achieve. It is quite likely they will not spare any means to help their child into the best education and to have the good things in life.

However, one of the best things in life, especially from a child's perspective, is encouragement. And that it totally free but it does take some doing and a conscious effort on the part of each parent. Parents need to be alive and alert to recognizing a child's talent, his inclinations and preferences and also his negative aspects. Knowledge is power and using power wisely gets the desired effect that leads to fulfillment and satisfaction. Correction is easy but positive encouragement in the right direction achieves more. It is also not easy. Starting early and making a habit of having a positive approach helps and also encourages siblings to have the same outlook and become supportive. Encouragement and support, however, do not have to be intrusive; they have to be mixed with healthy respect for privacy.

Parents know their children best. Often, due to work pressures and other commitments, they are not able to spare the mental energy or time to become actively involved in guiding their child's life.

Parents know or can sense the unique talents each child has and talents he develops as he grows. It pays to hold family meetings, share thoughts and then come out with positive encouragement with supportive gestures and actions give a boost to a child's development. If a child has a natural talent for music or painting or mathematics, encouragement builds passion in him to explore and achieve. Let him know you are there and he can count on your support.

Encouragement can be in the form of simple words that will always remain in the child's mind and egg him on. A more concrete form is to reward him with little gifts he values. Inspire and motivate and watch how he feels encouraged, emboldened and full of self-confidence. These are the foundations of a successful person.. Active encouragement means active participation in the family member's interests. One has to spare time and be involved to get results. It might mean taking time off from the office to attend a concert or a play where your child is participating. Your presence makes a vast difference.

Failures or disappointments are a part of life. This is where encouragement in family really helps restore the ego, rebuild confidence and help a family member feel energized. When the going gets tough, a few positive words of encouragement and support infuse strength and courage.

People really love written notes. They read it again and again and savor the words. A few encouraging words in a note are simply priceless. It does not take a lot of effort; it does not cost a lot, yet achieves so much.