Hi Readers! What is your philosophy on quitting? Some say, ‘Quitters never win!' I disagree with that. I say sometimes let others win! I say, sometimes its good to be a loser!

Our culture is obsessed with winning. Work, relationships, friendships, career and even spiritual path has become a matter of winning! Delusion! Sometimes the victory which we think will make us happy, actually is the one that makes life a problem. To some people, ‘Quitting' or ‘Not Winning' sounds synonymous to failure. It is not the case. Quitting merely acknowledges that an activity is no longer productive and cessation is better than continuing to beat your head against a brick wall. It saves lot of time and energy. If you forcefully keep on doing something you dislike with a fear that quitting will make you look like a loser then you will lead a very unhappy and miserable life. Also, those who are unable to accept defeat gracefully later in life deal with tough disappointments.

We want to win each and every time! Winning in small table games like chess, carom, snakes and ladders has also become a matter of pride and ego. Why be so bothered about winning? As parents impatience and correctiveness breaks out and we scold our children‘You should’ve done this... or that...’So much anger, tears, fights, disappointments and frustrations come out even at the smallest of defeats... Why? Yes, winning is sweet music. But why cry bitterly when losing? Losing may appear like a bitter pill to swallow. No matter how much you win in life, there are going to be lots of losses out there waiting for you.

Every victory small or big is only a toss or two away from losing, because its not how we throw the dice but what game God has decided for us.

One can win by cheating, by politics, by unfair means but will that make your soul strong and competent? Will it not give you a false impression of the world? Letting others win is not about mercy. Basic question of life and sports is same, “Did you had fun?", “Did you enjoy?", it is not “Did you win?"

People are living under so much pressure these days that only thing that helps them feel good about themselves is their victory. But achievements or victory are no joy if its not obtained fair and square, it will not bring you peace if its done with cheating. The way sports people brag and dance of victory these days, that makes us think that only winning matters, only an animalistic and dramatic dance of achievements give us a sense of self.

Allowing the heart to lose a little, letting things go can go a long way in releasing forces of worry, driven-ness, and self-aversion. When we allow ourselves to accept a bit of losing, life opens up in surprising ways, it releases the pressure of “I am always right" , “I had said this first", “I told you I will win", it makes us more present, sensitive and gives us richness of being alive.

We should put our feet on ground and not live in our fantasy world of victory. Dont live in your idea of “Who I should be" Or what “People think I am", release yourself from your own delusions and this release will curiously feel like winning, a God sent victory.

Therefore, lose gracefully, win compassionately and... sometimes, let others win! May God Bless.